Funerals, Shiva & Unveilings
Funerals
Whenever death comes, we are never ready for it. There are many details that need to be pulled together quickly. I can interface with the funeral home, and cemetery and counsel you on logistics as well as religious questions; respectful of your wishes and always with a flexible and open mind.
The funeral service can be held at a funeral home, temple or other location. A virtual service is also an option. In addition to the Jewish service, a military or Masonic funeral service may also be conducted at interment. While Jews are not customarily cremated, it is becoming more common, and a service can be held either before or after cremation.
No matter the circumstances surrounding the death, be it old age, sickness, accident, suicide, accidental drug overdose, my promise is to provide your family with a warm, comforting tribute to the deceased. I will create and produce a customized prayer pamphlet for the service so that all may participate.
Sitting Shiva – A week of mourning for immediate family
Traditionally, Shiva, which lasts seven day, is a time for the community to comfort the bereaved family, I can assist you in finding a meaningful way to sit Shiva, based on your level of observance. You may want to consider inviting friends and family to a ZOOM Shiva consisting of a brief service followed by an opportunity to share memories.
The Unveiling Ceremony
The headstone can be installed on the grave from one to eleven months after the funeral. Before the arrival of family for the brief graveside service, a cover is placed over the new headstone, and is removed as the service begins. This is accompanied by the recitation of Psalms, a brief eulogy, or kind words about the life of the deceased, followed by the El Maleh Rahamim (God who is filled with Compassion) prayer and finally, family members recite the Mourners Kaddish. Before departing the grave site, participants place small stones on the tombstone as an act of remembrance or respect for the deceased.
Setting a date for the unveiling is flexible. Consider a time when family members are already in town for a holiday or occasion. Keep in mind that Jewish cemeteries will be closed on Shabbat, (Friday afternoon and Saturday) as well as on Jewish holidays.
A rabbi is NOT necessary for an unveiling, however I am available to advise you, and will travel to the site and perform the service if desired.
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